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Jay Came to Town

February 27, 2006 Mary Lee Shalvoy Leave a comment

Alameda Sun, 3.2.2006
Jay McInerney
Jay McInerney came to town last Friday night. He strolled down Park Street into Books Inc. with his publicist and his girlfriend and did a reading of his latest novel, The Good Life. He commanded a decent crowd with a TV camera recording all the way through the question and answer session.

McInerney catapulted to fame in the literary community — and notoriety in the New York party scene — in 1984 with the success of his debut novel Bright Lights, Big City. He has written nine books since then: seven novels, a collection of short stories and a collection of essays on wine from his work at House & Garden magazine. Dressed in a black turtleneck, black blazer, and blue jeans, McInerney had that look of someone famous. His deep blue eyes conveyed a certain glibness, a “been there, done that, oh-how-I-miss-those-days” attitude combined with an air of indifference. The tinted reading glasses added a twist—a nod to his age, but still cool. What’s the hardest thing about book tours? “Morning TV,” he said.

The Good Life traces the lives of several New York couples immediately following the tragedy of 9/11. McInerney noted that the book is really about reassessing your life when tragedy hits. He said that he hopes the book taps into a new layer of sadness and emotional depth “we all took away from [9/11].”

McInerney spent time working in the soup kitchens set up for the disaster relief workers near Ground Zero, where much of the events in his book take place. He recalled that he found it difficult to write during this period, but knew that he would write about his experiences some day.

During the Q&A at Books Inc., McInerney fielded many questions about whether the changes that took place in people have lasted in the five years since the disaster. He noted that time does play a part in lessening the impact, but the intentions were there. “I imagined that I’d always be my best self after that. It’s sad that the moment faded,” he told the crowd.

When asked what he thought was the biggest change in himself, he replied: “I got a large dose of humility. I was a little short on that before 9/11.”

Two of the central characters in this novel have been following him around. “The ones in this book have followed me since 1986 when I first wrote about them in a short story called “Smoke” published in The New Yorker,” he explained. They also served as the main characters in his own personal favorite of his published books, Brightness Falls.

McInerney noted that he has tried to be a better person since 9/11, and considers himself definitely a better father. His boy/girl twins were born in November 1994 and he spends a considerable amount of time with them. He also says that he tried to live more in the moment, relishing special wines in his wine collection, for example, instead of letting them sit in a wine cellar.

A soft-spoken gray-haired woman in the crowd during the Q&A asked: “Are you still a bad boy?” and he blushed. That made him so real and vulnerable, and not quite the persona he carries around with him. He answered, after a beat, “Not nearly as much as I used to be.” And then, “As bad as you can be past 40 with two kids.”

But he seemed to want to reassure the crowd that he’s grown up a bit, that he’s lived through experiences that have given his life some meaning by adding, “I’ve morally improved since the 80’s.”

After signing what seemed like hundreds of extra copies of The Good Life, McInerney and his small entourage headed out of town. They had reservations at Chez Panisse in Berkeley they had to keep.

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Mom, Mom, Mom…

February 20, 2006 Mary Lee Shalvoy Leave a comment

Published: Alameda Sun, Thursday, February 23, 2006
http://www.alamedasun.com/family/22306family2.htm

If you are a mother, then you have heard these words, or some adaptation of the term of endearment, at least a million times in your career so far. That’s if your child can speak. If your little one has not yet turned audible sounds into meaningful language, then I know from past experience that you are longing for and certainly will bless the day when it arrives. The first few times—maybe the first hundred or so—that you hear your children call you “Mom” or “Mommy” is like listening to a beautiful song written just for you.

I am here to warn you that like the hit song that gets played to death and you can’t change the radio station fast enough at the sound of the first few chords, you may end up wishing you were “Dad.” Oh, were it so easy just to push a button to change the kid talk radio station that never has any dead air.

When my three girls were very young and adorable, they called me “Mama.” Oh, the sheer delight of the sound! It was great when they were toddlers and I could recount the latest cute kid story to family and friends. But when did it turn into an intolerable incantation that sounds like chalk on a chalkboard?

“Mom. Mom. Mom.” Could it be that it happens mostly when I am preoccupied with the many other things I do in a day? When I am on the phone or trying to make a deadline? When I am dealing with one of the three and the other two want my attention at the same time?

As sweet as it can be, it’s a powerful word, too. When I was a teenager spending summers at the Jersey Shore, my best friend and I would stand on the boardwalk and scream “Mom!” for fun, to watch all of the women on the crowded beach jump up to respond at the ready. I think it’s an example of how much power kids know they have over “Mom.” Maybe it unnerves me so because I know that it’s my job to be able to respond readily to whatever may follow.

I suppose it’s better than “Ma” which is what my brothers and sisters called my mother growing up. She hated it. As we got older, we did it to tease her, to torment her and we succeeded. If she were alive today, I would beg for her forgiveness. I get it now.

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